I have spent the past day thinking about those who have been my mentors and coaches. One thing strikes me: not all these relationships were declared or might even be recognized by the other party. My list reads as a “who’s who” of positive influence in my life.
My mentors range from the personal, professional, spiritual, and educational.
One of my early mentors was Zach Staenberg. In college I hated editing. But Zach’s passion and insights challenged me and helped to shift my thinking. He was not my coach. In that situation my coach would have been the first or second assistant editor (I was the apprentice).
Another early professional mentor was David Frankel. Over the three months I worked with him I remember discussing his insights and philosophies on the process of film/TV production – again, shaping my perspectives and future practices.
To a lesser extent, yet still true, Michael Rachmil, Norman Steinberg, Matthew Ody and Stan Golden also acted as mentors and the latter two, as coaches. During my initial work for Roger Corman, the first projectionist I met (sorry, I don’t have a name) was a coach – seriously. Having told Roger Corman I knew how to run a 35mm double system projector (I didn’t), the projectionist on another one of Corman’s films coached me through the process and I was able to run the dailies for him for a few weeks.
Mentors were far and few between my exit from Hollywood and my entrance to education. Mailen Kootsey whose passion for technology and education challenged my thinking and perspectives, energizing me into educational technology and a Masters in Education.
Personal Mentors:
My father
Spiritual Mentors:
A Graham Maxwell
Robert Wieland
Jonathan Gallagher
Educational Mentors:
Mailen Kootsey
Dave Gilsdorf
My 5th and 6th grade teachers were great coaches, as was my 9th and 10th grade English teacher. Certainly other teachers have played a positive coaching role.
Can people you have never met mentor or coach you? At first I admit that I hesitate to say “yes”. However, I can’t shake the influence of authors, and artists of all sorts whose handiwork has either mentored me or coached me in one or more of my life’s domains. Clearly as I engage with their works I engage in a relationship with them.
Among these who I consider mentors: David Dunn (“Try Giving Yourself Away”); John Eldredge (“Wild at Heart”); Ellen White (“Desire of Ages” and “God Made Manifest in Christ” among others); Ensemble for “Babette’s Feast” and “My Life as a Dog”.
And for coaching, pretty much anything by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
I too am the work of my mentors and coaches. This brings me to consider that as people engage with me or my works, you have also in some way engaged with my mentors and coaches. Naturally the reverse is true too.